As children grow, much of their self esteem rests on their being able to meet developmental challenges with pride. Wetting the bed can be particularly upsetting for this reason. Bed-wetting is far more common than most people know; if your child is battling this problem, read on.


What causes bed-wetting?


The majority of bed-wetting occurs with boys, and about 1 in 7 five years old will experience it. Bed-wetting cases beyond 12 years are relatively rare. A 2013 review in the Acta Physiologica journal explains that bed-wetting is a result of the way boys develop physically: while girls grow gradually, boys do so in spurts, and this means that the relevant muscles (in this case the destrusor urinae muscle) may need a little time to catch up and mature.


A second possible reason is that bed-wetting occurs because of emotional upsets. A child who starts wetting the bed all of a sudden may be regressing slightly and often, a new stressor in the environment is the cause. This includes starting school, conflict at home or the birth of a sibling.


The importance of managing bed-wetting together

Understandably, wetting the bed can be very distressing for children, so it’s vital to remain calm and non judgmental. A child will never wet the bed on purpose, and making them feel guilty will only increase their tension and undermine their trust in you.


Instead, be patient and try not to draw too much attention to your child, who may be feeling quite bad. Other useful ways of reducing bed-wetting include stopping any kind of liquid intake after around 3 pm and putting disposable liners on the bed to help with cleanup.


While there are commercially available “bed alarms” that wake the child up when in contact with moisture, these more high tech solutions are usually best reserved for very persistent bed-wetting. It may be helpful to wake a child up a few hours after going to sleep for a quick bathroom break, as this time is usually the period in which most bed-wetting occurs.


Hypnosis is another underrated treatment modality that can help with bed-wetting. Hypnokids® specialists are an excellent source of support to help children relax and overcome the stress that may be behind bed-wetting, allowing them to get to the root cause of their difficulties. Your child can experience relief after three or four sessions with a qualified practitioner, and will learn some valuable relaxation techniques in the process. The hypnotherapist will explain the difference between primary bed-wetting (your child has never been dry) and secondary bed-wetting (wetting the bed after being dry for some time). The treatment depends on the specifics of your child’s experience, and through deep relaxation, the subconscious foundation of the problem is addressed and resolved.


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