While it’s true that absence makes the heart grow fonder, nobody would pretend that being away from your partner for a long time is an easy thing to do. But with the right attitude, your relationship can weather the distance and come out stronger than before.
Take advantage of technology
We live in an era where people are literally available at our fingertips any time of the day. Use Skype or Facetime, connect through social media sites, instant message one another and share photos. The more channels you open up, the better. Daily communication can ease some of the stress of being apart.
Going long distance can be the death knell for a relationship if there isn’t a foundation of mutual commitment. Without the shared idea of committing to a future together, the challenges of being apart can simply seem like more trouble than it’s worth. Before you embark on a long distance relationship, have a discussion where you clarify your mutual goals and commitment to sticking it out. Reassurance of your partner’s dedication will go a long way to helping you cope with the difficulties of their absence later down the line.
Visit as often as possible
Visits are great in and of themselves, but they also give you something to look forward to and to plan together. Having little milestones makes the time you are not together a little easier to bear.
Create your own rituals and habits
For most committed relationships, couples have their own special language, their own routines that include the other person, their daily rhythms and habits. This is one of the first things that disappears when a couple lives apart, but with some effort, you can maintain regular contact through the small, mundane things in life.
Have a routine where you both call each other first thing in the morning or last thing at night, for example, or cook dinner at the same time everyday so you can chat and share about what you’re preparing. Create little in-jokes, days of the week where you meet for special chats or even send a small weekly gift in the mail.
Maintain your own life
It’s great to go out into the world, doing and learning new things so that when you reconnect with your partner, you have something fresh to share with them. Just because you’re in a long distance relationship, it doesn’t mean you can’t get out there and pursue your own personal development. Spend time with friends and family - they’ll be able to support you when you’re really missing your partner - or else keep your mind off the distance altogether.
Ultimately, a long distance relationship doesn’t necessarily need to be “survived”, but, if handled consciously, can be a great opportunity to clarify mutual goals and really learn to appreciate one another.